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I am 17, My son's bio father is 18 (John), My fiance is 19 (Nate) and my son is 2.

I am going to first list the reasons why my son's bio father isn't allowed to see him.
*When my son was a baby baby he never woke up with him in the middle of the night he just ignored him.
*I have a police report filled against my sons fathers father for saying he was going to preform a sexual act on my son.
*My sons father made the same comment and called him a BAS****
*We had an agreement of him seeing the baby every other weekend and him helping pay for diapers and milk, etc. and two months came around he never helped at all i was providing food and milk for my son.
*He brought him to my house after the weekend, snot running down his face, his feet were black and he was all sticky. thats when i drew the line. and stopped letting him over there.
*he tried to have his sisters jump me and take the baby the police told me to move so now instead of ohio im in missouri.

Which now he wants something to do with him son and trys to call my phone etc.
I am engaged and when married i want my son to have my fiances middle and last name.

I dont have regrets but is my reasons good enough reasons to why i am doing this to better my son. thank you for your advice!


PS. my fiance raises my son as if he is his own child, plays with him, feeds, changes him, calls him son, etc.

Listen, whether you want it or not, this guy is your kids father, and if you prevent the realtionship your son is going to blame you, instead of his father for it. He is only 2 right now, but he will go looking for his father one day, and if you are out of the loop, you will pay the price. The best thing for you to do is to take the father to court for child support. I have a feeling that he hasn't gone to court for visitation rights because he doesn't want to pay child support, and I know you think you don't need that jerk's money, but you really need to do this. First, a two year old doesn't really cost alot, but a teenager is a very different story. If your ex is a bad father, you will have the court to back you up. They will say that he can only have supervised visitation, or maybe they will say he can't see him until he has completed some parenting course. Either way, the whole time he will be giving you money to help out with the baby. If you and your fiance get married it is possible that he could adopt your son, but not unless the bio father says. If the court sets some visitation dates and the father doesn't keep them it will help you out because then you can show that to the court. You need to get the courts involved because if you just deny him visitation without backup it could make him look better in the eyes of the court. I know that you wish this guy would dissappear out of your life, but that is not an option. You are going to have to deal with it. Throughout your kids life, his father may hurt him by promising to come and not showing up, or all kinds of things. You don't want him to be able to say to your son, "I wanted to be a father to you, but your mother wouldn't let me," and if you keep things this way, your son will blame you for all of it. Get the backing of the court, get some money for child support. The longer you wait the more the court is going to look down o nit. The court feels as though child support is your sons right, and if you don't go for it you are denying your son his right. I know that this isn't what you want to hear, but it is what you have to do.

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(Rating: 3) His father has no legal rights what so ever.. he had the option to sign the birth certificate he told me he wanted a dna test, its not his baby blah blah. my son has my last name he has no legal rights until he goes to court.. and child support isnt the problem he told me to file for child support. He is just to lazy to try anything. and he wouldnt pay child support i understand my son may be upset about it but its not like i would hide it from him. i would let him know.
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