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ok so my bf and I have been togethr since xmas eve. well he doesn't really treat me like a gf. like it seems like were just friends. we've only held hands like once.and he hugs me hello and goodbye. we haven't had our 1st kiss yet. (but im not rushing that). I tried talking to him about treating me like a girlfriend.and it didn't really do anything.he's always talking to other girls and it makes me jealous. so yes I also have a jealousy problem.and im pretty sure the last 2 days he went to lunch with this girl. that's his friend. but it makes me mad cause he nos it makes me mad! and he started actng really immature like goofy aftr we started going out.my mom said its probably cause he doesn't know how 2 act. well my question is what can I do to make him treat me more like a real girlfriend. and how can I get over my jealousy problem? thankyou in advance

Your mother is probably right that he doesn't know how to act. It seems like he is comfortable in his friendships with girls, so with you he is sticking to his comfort zone. You might have to be the one to show him the ropes through your actions. If you want to hold hands, you be the one to grab his-etc. It sounds like you have a mother who is cool-so invite him to your house or somewhere that there isn't a ton of other people. He might be a little shy about public affection. As far as the jealousy thing...Jealousy is good in one way because it is nice for hm to know that you like him so much you get jealous of other girls, but on the other hand, if you start fights with him about it, or forbid him to have other girls for friends he isn't going to want to be with you. Every time you see him with another girl think about how jealous they must be of you. They obviously think he's cool, and he picked you over all of them. Imagine the conversation they are having. He might be asking them for advice about you. You certainly don't want him saying to them, "My girlfriend is so jealous that I'm hanging out with you," because that will just give the other girl a pat on the back. If you really like this guy, don't make it a big deal when he is talking to other girls because that is the quickest way to get rid of him, and he's really not doing anything wrong. He really liked you, which is why he wanted to be your boyfriend, so now don't go and change everything. Be the same person you have always been. Have fun with him, and don't tell him all of the things he's doing wrong all of the time. Think of how you would feel if you just started dating a guy and he started telling you who you could and could not talk to, and then he started telling you that you weren't a very good girlfriend because you don't know how to act like a girlfriend. your head would be spinning. You would be like, "what happened to that fun guy I liked. Where did he go?" You don't want him to think, "wow, I wish I never asked her out because she changed."

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