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my friend rob posted a bulliten on myspace saying that he was suicidal again. and he said that he had a knife and a lighter in his bedroom and he wasnt afraid to use them, he also said that meybe he'd add a rope in to and that he wasnt afraid to kill himself. should i tell someone? if i do, who do i tell? will he hate me? should i talk to him first?
he's a good friend of mine. i dont wanr him to die. please help me.
Firstly, you need to decide how serious this is. Has he attempted suicide before or hurt himself purposely? If so, go with the first option.
First option - This is a cry for help. By posting it on Myspace he seems to be looking for attention but it may be more serious than you`d think. If you feel he may actually attempt to hurt or kill himself, you NEED to tell a trusted adult immediately. You have many options ranging from your parents or guardians, his parents or guardians, teachers, counselors - they will know what to do. If you feel that he may be mad at you for telling, ask the adult to keep it a secret that you were the one to tell them about his behaviour. If he finds out it was you he may lash out and be mad at first. After time he may realize you saved his life and forgive you (not that it is wrong to tell someone!).
Second option - If you believe he is doing this for attention and you have some time and energy to spare, give him attention. Hang out with him whenever possible and make him feel good about himself and his life. Maybe all he needs is a little encouragement to become happier. Remind him of his talents and best qualities. Is he funny? Laugh at his jokes. Does he make you smile? Tell him. Is he reliable or trust worthy? Let him know you appreciate how good of a friend he is. These are just examples, you know Rob since you`re his friend so you`ll know what is appropriate to say to him.
Finally, do not let this place too much stress on you. There is a fine line between being a good friend and being a crutch. If you feel that his situation is putting pressure on you, tell an adult right away. If you need any more advice feel free to ask me! You`re being a very responsible and kind friend by wanting to help him. :)
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thank you so much!
you really explained everything.
i'm going to give you an inbox question too about tthis.
thank you for helping :]
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