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15/f
Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half. He hasn't ever been over to my house before, i have been to his once. Well at first i was really nervous about him coming over and when i finally get the courage to ask him over, my mom tells me that when he comes over, i have to leave the door to my room open. This sucks. I'm not a whore at all and would not even think about doing "anything." My mom knows this too. She just wants to be sure. Anyways, i was planning on watching a movie in my room but i cant do that now because i have an two brothers, my step dad and my mom and if i leave the door open, you can see in my room from the kitchen (where everyone usually is) or the living room. I just can't have this. I don't liked to watched and it just adds to the pressure in the first place. What should i do? Thanks! (link)
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Oh, I see all you were looking for was a way to manipulate your parents, you didn't want to understand why they were doing it. Why I waste my time with 15 year old spoiled little girls I don't know. Say, next time you write, start off with 15/F/S/L/D, 15/Spoiled/Little/Debutant, I won't bother giving you any advice.
Original Advice;
1. It is not you she doesn't trust, it's him. 2. It is not proper to have a boy friend in your bedroom with the door closed. This goes way back, even to the point that a lady did not close their front door even, when she had a gentlemen caller. Imagine having to leave your apartment door open to the public as long as he was there. This was to keep others from talking about you, because everyone knows what goes on behind closed doors. You having brothers should know this all too well and they are the main reason that you should keep the door open. If you don't think that they will pick on you for a closed door and even spread nasty little rumors at school if you close your door, you really don't know boys very well. Save the hassle, this is not a battle you should fight.
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this really dosen't halp my situation at all.
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