I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
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this is my situation,
im 16 years old, 4 weeks pregnant i know i have options and i have been thinking about them a lot.
adoption is just out of the question if i did that then one of my family members would adopt my child and i wouldn't be able to deal with that. So im not putting my child up for adoption.
i have always told myself that i was against abortion not just because i think of it as killing a baby but because it can cause physical and emotional harm to you also.
if i kept the baby i know i would have sooo many people behind me my mom has 4 sisters and all of them including her had there first baby at 17 so i know they would understand i know they would all help me, but im sooo scared. Im a Jr this year and the baby wouldnt be born till late july early augest so thats summer i mean .. i want to go back to school after i have the baby i would do that.. but i dont know.. i mean im not sure the father will stick around my best friend is his sister i know she would help me but i dont know what to do... i really dont want to be someones mother right now and i know its my boyfriends and mine fault that this happened but .. HELP!
what would you do in my situation, tell me why and what you think I should do!... please help any advice will help me (link)
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There, that's the reaction I was looking for, remember, "A child is best taken care of by it's own mother". No one will ever love your child like you will. You are in for the ride of your life my dear, you will learn more from your child and she will make you become the best person you could ever imagine being. I will not apologize for what I said, it has made you make the proper choice and I wish you the best. You and your daughter will be watched over, that I promise you.
I'm not going to give advice, I'm going to give you my opinion. In almost every case a child is best taken care of by it's own mother. That said, I feel an open adoption is what you should do, to a couple. I must add that you are still in the first trimester and you can not be sure you are even going to carry this through until you are past this stage, but I will assume you will make it.
Find a good couple, one you don't know, complete strangers, who will raise this child as their own and give it the life it deserves, one that you obviously can't, or won't. You have shown already that you don't make good choices, you can't even pick a boy with balls, it makes me wonder how you got pregnant. Worse yet, you were stupid enough to have sex with him, hopefully it was before you knew these things, but I doubt it. That really has no bearing, for you should never have sex with someone who you don't know well enough to know if he's going to stand behind you and has the balls to be a man.
For once, make the right decision and let a real man and woman raise your child, cause you'll screw it up, you could never show this child the love it needs. I'm sure you'd just end up resenting it for screwing up your life.
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that was pretty harsh, you don't know anything about me i come from a good family and i could and am going to take responsibility for this child and give it all the love it could ever need, with that said, screw you.
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