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Q: I am pregnant and we think it is a girl. I have been thinking about what to tell my child about what I would like from her when it comes to sex. Well what I want to tell her is that she should wait for someone she has been with for a long time, who we (parents) know well and she is pretty sure she loves. The reason I want that is because that is what I did. I didn't have sex until I was 17 and was in love with the man that is now my husband and I really like that I can say I only had sex with one man and he is the one I am with today. I guess it makes for no regrets and stuff like that.

I am really just curious to know something. Those of you who have had sex just because you wanted to do it do you regret it? Also those of you who have had sex with the one person that you were in love with was it worth it?
The reason I ask is because I hear about how many teens are having sex with so many people but I don't hear about the regret. I just would like to know if there is any regret out there.

The problem is that most teenagers don't have sex just because they want to, they have it because they honestly think they're in love and know the person very well. I think you should wait and see what being a mother is really like in all stages before worrying about what your daughter will be like as a teenager. I'm glad you married the man you were with when you were 17, but things don't work out that well for 99.9% of other teenage relationships. Waiting until you're in love doesn't guarantee that you'll have no regrets... in fact there are very few guarantees in life, and the sooner you realize that the better you'll be able to help your daughter through whatever comes her way.

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oh yeah I know I just would really like it if people could experience it the way I did you know? I hope most teenagers wait until they think they love the person but on here it kinda feels opposite. thanks

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