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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.

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Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.

Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.

Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.

Ex.) She constatly offendes me.

Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .

Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.

Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.

And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]

So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.

Thanks in advance. :)

My advice, is to take a good hard look at that list you wrote. How upset do these things make you? Is there more you could have typed, but didn't? What is your reaction to her when she does these things?

Best friends will come and go your entire life. This girl sounds jealous, insecure, selfish, and aggressive. What part of you deserves one bit of that?

Don't be passive about any of this. If you think there's any redemption here, then talk to her. Tell her everything you here. That she makes you feel like crap and obviously doesn't appreciate you. The fact that she fell low enough to anonymously insult something you were proud of, is NOT friend.

Was she ever a good friend to you? If so, is there a chance she'll return to that person? If not, then why take one more day of your life and put it to waste?

Know that if confronting her doesn't work, and your friendship fails.. that your friendship was drifting because a good person and a bad person will never stay together.

If you do stay friends, make sure you don't get caught in the same rut. EX: Agreeing when she makes these rude comments about friends.. or backing down when she insult your interests.

And PLEASE remember.. if she's talking about other people, she's probably talking about you.

Ditch the chick.
Good luck.

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