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Q: So it seems like latley, instead of worrying about school ( which i am.) I'm worrying about my Ex-BFF.

We drifted apart this summer.
Like; No talking at ALL- which i really dont know what happened..

Maggie (exbff) and me alllways hung out. We were such good friends. Lets say we werrre attached by the shoulders.

But, this summer; I kind of got fed up with her. How much she changed. I can't stand it, I meen I see her on myspace and I hear about her from my other bestfriend ( who hangs out with maggie more then I do. ALOT MORE) and I get ... annoyed? In a way I want to be still friends with her, but then I see her and I'm like " UGH!" . I dont know it's so confusing! And now that school is going to start, I really dont know what to do. I'm mad because we drifted apart, and I'm mad at her for that. I meen she goes across the street to my other friends house, and never comes and sees what I'm up to?

okay so, yeah I dont know exactly what I'm feeling- that's where the confusing part comes in.

But I need help with how to deal with it in school. How much shes changed with her new "bff" and how to show her that I've been GREAT without her, instead of talking about the stupid Old times. you know what I meen? even though I have been great.

But Not seeing her this summer took a whole load off; lets just say I was STRESS FREE! ahha.
So yeah- things do happen for a reason; I became much better friends with my other friends who I hang out with mostly everyday..

Now to deal with it in school 24/7; help?

Honestly you know where you stand. You said yourself you can't stand how she changed for the worse and that bothers you. Not only does she not seem to care about you right now but she seems to think that if she becomes a different person she'll have a better life. And really how much does that make sense? Not a lot.

When it comes down to it, all she really wants is attention. She's being selfish and not caring about anyone else. Is this truly a person you want as a friend? She definitely won't benefit you in any way by acting like this.

Your life is stress free and you seem to have friends who are right for you. You really don't need her. It's hard to lose a friendship especially when you were close. But even if you don't realize it now, you'll find out later on that everyone you met in your life makes you learn something new. You know what to look for in friendship. If people don't possess any of those qualities that you look for they aren't worth your time.

When you see her at school try not to make it seem like a big deal. Don't be rude to her, just keep casual. Always make yourself look approachable because then if she has anything to discuss with you, she'll feel like she can without it being awkward. I would focus not so much on her but on you and your new friends. Get to know some people that you haven't spoken to in awhile. Get involved in activites or do things that you always wanted to do. If you can keep busy and fullfill things you want to do then you'll have a happy life. Learn from her but don't dwell on the memories. Remember, it's a new year of school and things will change. Live in the present, not the past.

Rating: 5

thankyou so much .

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