I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
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So, when I was younger, I wasn't really attractive. I had glasses and what not. When I was in 5th - 7th grade I never went a week with out a boyfriend.It is sad. I lived at apartments. I got asked to have sex a lott. But i never did. I am going into freshmen year now and I am still a virgin. I have to say I am good looking now. I get comments from guys more than like 20 times a day on how hot I am. I get asked to have sex at a minimum of 3 times a day. I am still a virgin but don't want to be. But I don't really want to have a like 1 night stand with a friend.
I was dating somebody last year, but it was a secretive relationship. He wanted to have sex and I said no. I really regret it. Cause all the people that I like are experienced and I'm not. So I don't want to be having sex or getting fingered or anything with my friends when I'm still a virgin.
But I really want to have sex and stuff with them, but it is embarrassing.
I really need advice!!
Pleaseeee help me!! (link)
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Should you have sex for the sake of having sex? Hmm, let me think about that one, sure why not, if everyone else is doing it, you should defiantly be a drone like everyone else. It's silly to be a leader and do things for the sake of right and wrong when you can just follow everyone else.
You should always get what you want at all costs, even if you screw up your life in the process. Being pregnant and popping out kids at your age is fun. You get lots of attention that way and you can always just give the babies away so you will have no responsibilities for them.
The Human Being is the combination of the Human animal and the spiritual Being. Why should you be any different from the majority of people out there that live their life satisfying the animal instead of controling it? You have urges, you should always appease them, sexual urges, the urge to eat what ever you want, the urge to kill, you should always appease your animal urges. Tell you what, the next guy you see that turns you on, just go up and say, "Hey do you want to F*ck me", hell just do that with every guy you meet, you'll have the time of your life, no matter how long it turns out to be.
Be well dear one, you are given many gifts in life, do not be in such a hurry to give them away. There are gift that should be earned.
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HAHAHAHA, your age is showing dear one, as well as your intelligence. Sarcasm totally escapes you and humor as well. There is no response to your question that differs from mine in any other way other then the angle that I chose to right it from. There are 4 responses here, yet mine is the only one you responded to, (as of writing this), I consider that a job well done.
I made you think about your stupid question and the total lack of any thought or brains going into it. Your anger, so obviously, stems from the truth you see in my writing, for no matter what you say, my words are true and come from what you so clearly wrote in your question.
I broke a decision I had made in even answering your question. I had decided to stop answering any questions other then personal ones and I'll tell you why: One, because so many of you here only come for confirmation of something you want to do that you know is wrong and rate those who don't give it to you badly. Two, so many like yourself don't give any where near enough information in your questions to give you good advice when you are truly seeking it. And three; I don't believe that even half of the questions on relationships and sex are real. I have answered 183 questions on this site since I started here and I have been rated 99 times, that's just over half. I believe that about half of the questions asked here are by some self appointed watch dog looking for that one in million pervert that will say, "come on little girl, I'll show you all about sex."
You have convinced me once again that I am wasting my time answering general forum questions, for there are too many of you shallow little girls and boys who don't have any interest in what anyone else has to say, unless of course it agrees with what you want to hear.
Though your response to me was profane and vulgar, showing how little your mind actually is, I will wish you the best and hope that someday you learn the difference between living life and experiencing life. But in truth, I have seen many of your kind in my time, I know the path you are going to follow. I wish you well.
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Wow, you could have just said don't do it because....I'm not going to have sex with random guys, I'm not a complete idiot! And I'm not a follower. I would have sex because I want to not because I want to be like everybody else. And I know about pregnancy dumb ass! I'm not going to have sex, get pregnant and give it away. I was just asking for advice. I know what happens when people have sex and what can happen. I know more about this stuff than almost everybody my age thank you very much. And if I were to ever get pregnant I would take care of it. I am against abortions and putting up for adoption. I am the only one responsible for my actions and I know that. So instead of saying "F*ck me" I'm saying Fuck you!!
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