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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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Hi,
I won't go into detail here, as If I do we'll be here all day :-(
Anyway, I have helped a friend who was in desparate need, financially and physically for over a year now, and it has nearly drained me of all my resources. I am so tired and worn out and also worried about my own finances. She claims she will still need my help for another two months and then should be able to get back on her feet and start paying me back. Which I just can't see how she will do that. I have tried to tell her NO, that I can't do this anymore, but I just can't say it, because honestly she has no one else.
yes I feel like I am being taken advantage of, but also she needs the help.
Is there an easy way to say NO? If she didn't have small children--I could do it easier perhaps.
There are easy ways to saying even the hardest of things. This girl, good friend or not, is taking advantage of you. Just because her life is in a dip set, doesn't mean that she can take you along with her now.
The easiest way to say no.. is to say it with a lot of substitute options after. Suggest what she can do for herself, and her children to help get her back on her feet. Organizations.. different jobs.. classes.. clinics.. clubs.. any of that.
You have to ask yourself... what is she doing to help herself, in comparison to what YOU'RE doing to help her. These number don't seem to add up, do they?
Say it calmly and nicely, because you don't want it to come off as a personal attack of any kind. You understand her dilemma, you WANT to help-- but at the same time, you have a life to live, which involves money, time, and space. She needs to let you have that.. she owes it to you.
Good luck.
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