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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

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18 years old.

I usually go on a date with someone "new" about once every two weeks. A few of the people I go on a date with really have a lot in common with me. But there's a good number of people that I just don't hit it off with, and when that happens, I get really depressed. I don't know why.

This guy on myspace added me and we talked online for a long time and finally went on an actual date today. We didn't hit it off like we thought we would, and since it ended, I've felt really bad. Like I didn't measure up to what he expected. I always feel like this after a date that doesn't go smoothly. I never feel like I'm good enough. :(

Is this normal and what do I do?

I am not going to same something corny as 'you are good enough', because firstly, I feel you should be strong enough and comfortable in your own skin when you start dating! So I suggest you take a break from this constant dating and just take some time to reflect. Give your body, soul and mind a rest, in other words, give some time to yourself, either go to the spa or whatever that will make you feel good. Do things that make you feel beautiful! You have to feel EXCEPTIONAL in your OWN skin and BY yourself, you shouldn't need anyone to make you feel that way. Once you have done that, then you can start dating! That way, you heal yourself internally, spiritually and all that, you feel BEAUTIFUL the way you are, which is what you should be feeling. Then only can you date comfortably and then only, you will be able to understand that you aren't compatible with eveyone, only some, and that some is who you should be focussing on. Not the try-outs! :D It isn't your fault you aren't compatible with a guy, who cares?! You most probably ARE to another, you most probably are the MOST beautiful to a couple of guys out there! So don't let a couple of rough dates get to you.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you very much! Great advice.
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