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So on our anniversary, my boyfriend suggested we go a little bit further and get like naked and stuff. Not have sex though. I'm fine with that but I am really self conscious of my...downstairs. The...thing in the middle is larger than average. There's kind of an innie and an outtie for a vagina, not just for a belly button. I'm definatly an outtie. But anyway, do guys really find that attractive no matter what? I'm so scared of how awkward it will be ( I think )
And my butt has these red bumps on them. It's a skin condition I have on my arms too. And it's gross, I don't want him to see it. He says nothing could be gross about me. He loves the smell of my vagina and everything. But ahh I'm just nervous.
Can some boys give me their opinion of what grosses them out?
Or someone please tell me it isn't awkward with someone you love. It's our one year anniversary by the way. And tips? ANYTHING?
And besides sexual presents, i'm getting a book made of us that I wrote. But that isn't enough because he's doing a ton for me. I want to do something for him. Not like cooking for him so don't say that. Any ideas?? I was thinking promise rings, scavenger hunt to a picnic? Hmm... (link)
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Hmm, getting naked because he's giving you so much and you think your not giving him enough. So, he's buying a look at your body, would 200 dollars get you to go all the way with him? This is not a reason to get naked with a boy. The reason to get naked with a boy is a prelude to sex, other wise why get naked?
You have been together for a year, for some that would be enough time to take a step like this, but I'm not sure it has been enough time for you. There is doubt all over your letter and you are unsure of his reaction. It seems to me, you don't know enough about your own body to be taking this step. Terminology aside, the things you don't know could put you in a heap of trouble.
The red bumps sound like an allergy to something you are eating, check with a doctor. If you are determined to do this, learn everything you can about the female body and sex. If the bumps are treatable, wouldn't it be nicer to show your boyfriend the female body at it's best?
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The doubt was already there dear one, I just put things in a different light. There is nothing bad about the female body, it is quite exquisite and perfect in my mind, no matter how un-perfect the girl herself sees it. I only wish you to consider your reason for getting naked.
And please, don't give me a rating you don't think I deserve. If you don't want to give me a bad mark, just don't give me one at all.
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Rating: 5
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bleh, you made me doubt everything and feel bad about my body. some of it was good advice. but the bumps aren't an allergy :P it's a skin condition. but i give everyone 5's for attempting at their best :)
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