I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
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Has anybody ever been dropped by your friends? Like, they just completely ignore you or stop contacting you, etc? Because my friends did that to me several months ago. And when I say several, I mean several. I've gone now a very very long time without the support of my friends. I was just wondering if a similar situation has happened to any of you, and if it has...what did you do? How did you cope? And anybody who really has been through this knows that it's not as simple as just finding new friends. It just really really isn't. Because there are a few people within this group that I'm still a little close to, but there are others which just hate me completely for some reason that I don't understand. And I still want to have some friends, so I can't just drop my few friends I have just so because they're associated with the friends that ditched me. That doesn't work I'm sorry. I'm having a hard time dealing with this...and I just wanted to know if I'm alone in having this situation happen. (link)
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We all learn and grow and change. It would be my bet that you have either grown out of this circle, or they perceive you as changing, it is most often the cause of such behavior.
Most people, especially young people, have a problem with change, they want everything to remain the same, (it is what the story of Peter Pan is about). Now, the big question is, (if it is you that is changing and not them), are you going to be a good puppy and follow them, or are you going to grow and learn and become who you were meant to become?
You act as if your friends define you, so if you have no friends, you are nothing? Perhaps there is a need for you to be friendless here, so you can learn to be self reliant. Your letter wreaks of weakness, where is your center, with in you, or with in your friends? Not a position of strength dear one.
Life throws nothing at you that you can't handle, learn what you are suppose to learn and stop being a victim of your own life.
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