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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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This guy that I met about a year ago got my # and started texting me a lot, but I was already in a relatinship at the time. When my relationship ended, about two weeks later he asked me to hang out with him. Well, it ended up we started dating but only for a month and then he dumped me and gave me a stupid reason for it. We still talked after that, but only as friends.
Just recently, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him about the guy I just started dating a couple weeks ago. That's when he told me the "true" reason he dumped me before, in which it was not really his fault, but he was extremely apologetic. And then he asked if we could start over, but I told him I had moved on, and so he said that whatever happens will happen.
The problem is, now he texts/calls me pretty consistently throughout the day, as if I am all he thinks about. Is it possible that this guy could just be trying to get back with me because he wants sex? Because when we were dating, he would bring it up and I would tell him I wanted to wait. My first inclination was that he was only in it for sex, but now that I think about it, if he only wanted sex, then he wouldn't be spending all this time waiting on me because there's plenty of girls willing to hook up with a guy around here. Should I consider him?
Well, what was the real reason he dumped you? Was it honestly not his fault?
Personally, I don't think he's just trying to get back together with you for that one reason, becuase like you said, there's other girls that would have hooked up with him.
If you don't like your ex anymore and if you want him to stop texting you and stuff, just gradually stop responding as much. He'll eventually stop bothering you throughout the day and get the hint. But if he's constantly texting and calling you like that, it seems like he really wants you back. But it depends how close you are with your current boyfriend, I guess. Do you think you'd be better off with your ex or the guy you're seeing now? Before you make that decision, make sure you're ex isn't just going to break up with you again for the same reason as before.
Good luck. :)
(Rating: 5) His reason was that this girl that he had slept with before he met me got jealous and told him he would blackmail him if he didn't dump me... which could be true or it could be bullshit (that's what I assumed it was, until he kept on trying to get me back).
And the guy I'm seeing now I've only been on 2 dates with. And he seems like a great guy but I'm not close with him at all. There's no connection, at least not yet.