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ok so i broke up with my girlfriend two nights ago


so i've been going out with this girl for a year and 3 months or so. i loved her very much. very, very much, and i still care very much about her, but i just wasn't happy anymore. i wasn't having fun anymore with her. all our conversations were becoming nothing other than "i love you's" and talking about sex and stuff (we never had it. . . got kind of close a couple times). we fought a lot recently, particularly about how much we saw each other (at least once a week) and that i was putting my music (i'm in a band) before her (which shouldn't happen apparently), and it was starting to stress me out way too much. i got little sleep and worried about it a lot. . .

and then i couldn't do it anymore.


i still really care a lot about her, and in the back of my mind i feel like i made a really big mistake. . . but the rest of me thinks it's for the better.

could anyone help me out here?


thanks
First of all I think that you made a really good decision by stepping back and taking a break from it for a while. If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed by a relationship the best thing to do is to give it a few days. If you feel like you still love her and would maybe like to give it another try I say give her a call and let her know what is going on with you.

To be in a relationship you have to be willing to compromise, so both of you are going to have to compromise on your music career. She needs to be more understanding about the time you spend with your band and you have to be sure and make more time for her so she doesn't feel left out. Communication is one of the biggest things, you have to communicate your thoughts and feelings to one another so you don't end up holding them end and therefore causing stress and fights. When you call her let her know why you felt you needed a break then get her feedback, then if you still feel as though you want to try again then go for it. Just try to keep things out in the open and if you are stressing it talk to her about it and if you get back together and you feel like it was the wrong choice get out of it. You really just have to go with your gut and heart on it, do what you are comfortable with and what makes you happy.

Hope I Helped.

thanks. you really helped me out.

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