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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.

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hey i was searching columnists and i found yours and decided to ask you...sry this is a little long...i just really need help...

a little more than a week ago i was messing around with my boyfriend and doing a little dry humping and he took his penis out and kinda thrusted it in and out for a few seconds but not all the way in...just sorta a tease cause we were both virgins and just really horny and wanted to see how it would feel
i cant fully remember but im pretty sure i gave him a blow job a little before this all happened and he came in my mouth and i swallowed it and then he put his penis away and we just started making out and messing around again then that happened and im scared that i could be pregnant

he swears that he checked and there was nothing on his penis like precum or anything but im just really paranoid and scared

n then a couple days after that we had sex but i had given him a blow job a little before that and same thing...he came in my mouth and i swallowed and then we started making out and stuff again and got horny and decided to have sex and he put a condom on and all and we had sex for a bit but he didnt go in very far becuase it was my first time and it hurt a bit (though my cherry didnt pop and i dont know why...? he was in far but not ALL the way) then he pulled out and came in the condom

and about twice in the pool we were grinding each other but he was just in boxers (boxer breifs) and like nike basketball shorts and i was in a bathing suit and we were grinding against each other and he moved his penis upwards in his shorts so that it was poking at my vagina and was grinding and took his penis out and put it against my vagina and was grinding it on mine (i was in my bathing suit still) so im scared...really really scared

and its making me think things over even more like what if ive given him blowjobs and gotten cum on my hands then started rubbing my vagina or he got it on his fingers then a lil while later fingered me

im so paranoid and nervous now

im 16 and hes 17 and i last got my period on memorial day weekend...about may 24th im almost positive so if your periods supposed to come every 28 days i should be getting it this friday and now im getting all paranoid cause i feel like other times ive gotten my period i start getting slight cramp waves around now like the few days before i get my period and now im not

please help!

You have no idea how much I used to BE you. My boyfriend and I wouldn't have sex, but I'd do him a favor, he'd cum, and I'd be sitting there freaking out about whether or not the sperm could have possibly made it's way to my vagina. You're question was very long, but I read it all, and my answer is going to be just as long.

The first experience you mentioned, when you were just doing a little grind, and he slipped it, is the other scenario you have to worry about. Even though it's the only one you SHOULD worry about, it's still not very probable that you're pregnant.

I'm glad that you used a condom the second time with him. They're about 89% effective against pregnancy.

As for the pool? No. After I kept freaking out thinking that my boyfriend's came touched my hand, then I peed, got it on my vagina when I wiped blah blah blah-- I finally just sat down and researched it.

In order for a girl to get pregnant, a penis needs to be inside the vagina. Once sperm hits the air, it dies. Therefore, unless his penis was inside your vagina at the moment he was penetrating you, your pregnancy chances are from slim to absolutely nothing.

Also, as long as someone is wearing underwear, in your case a bathing suit, then there's no possible way it could happen, either.

When I was going through this faze, my boyfriend told me that people have sex all the time.. without condoms. Only 50% of them get pregnant. So if their chances are only half when they have actual sex, then getting pregnant without having sex is completely impossible.

Like I said, because if the time you actually did have sex, there may still be a chance from that. But really, relax.

Your period feeds off of different things. Food, exercise, sleep, and stress. Stress can actually slow down the arrival of your period. When I though I was pregnant, my period was a week late. And what sucked the most? I was inventing the pregnancy symptoms in my head. So I was actually making myself nauseous, hungry and tired.

So relaxxxxx. There's nothing you can do about it now. But now that you and your boyfriend may be getting more into sex, try birth control. That's 99% effective and way easier to manage with.

Take care!

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(Rating: 5) hey...well i got my period but i got it today...this morning

i was getting cramps for a few days and now i have it but very light compared to my normal first days

and the cramsp arent near what my normal first days are

its not like little dots of blood...i mean its definitly strong enough to fill a tampon throughout the day but not like i normally have it

and ive been on constant advil cause my tonsils are bothering me and swollen so the cramps are prob rally subsided by that...

and last week i was having problems and i was really sick cause my lower back and sides were hurting a lot and i was nauseus and getting weak and achey and my pee was really dark and i went for a blood test on the 13th and my doctor gave me infection meds so ive been on that...the results came back that it wasnt a kidney infection, urinary tract infection, mono, i wasnt pregnant, blahblah...ti went through everything...but i was still getting some signs of like kidney infection and stuff so on the 19th i went in for another blood test...

i havent goten the results yet for that

now me and my bf had sex on the 9th but thats not the time im scared about cause we used a condom, it was short, he pulled out...im scared of that time he went in for like 2 seconds without one on

and im not exactly sure when that was but it was def before the 7th

would that have shown up in the blood test if i was pregnant or not cause the blood test said i wasnt but im not sure how long until that would actually show up in a blood test

im so scared that im gonna get this bloodtest back and it say im pregnant or sumthing

im scared in general

i know im going nuts because so many ppl do it unprotected but im just so not used to this stuff...ive never done it or ealt with it before and i realized that its not worth 2 seconds of pleasure to risk my life...and ruin it...and ruin my parents life after all theyve done for me

i cant deal with this...im such a good kid and i dont ever want to do anything like i did ever again...to the point that if my bf wants to break up with me for it im fine with that cause hes not worth going through what im going through right now

i keep reading on google that early pregnancy signs can include cramping and spotting...like light pink or brown spotting but not enough to fill up a pad or tampon for a few days...

im def more than bleeding little spots...but its been one day and its going away already!?

what do i do?!

i have no signs really of pregnancy...my boobs are normal in size and theyre no different like not tender or sensitive or anything...i was getting fatigue but cause of my sickness and im all better from that now

late period yes but im only 16 so its normal for it to not be perfect...

im not really hungry or getting cravings...if anything i was losing my appetite from being sick but im back to normal now

idk...i just dont know what to do with myself

i know i GOT my period but whys it going awya and whys it not as strong

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