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Okay, Im 16/f and here is some background info.

So my dad has had cancer since 2001 and he keeps getting rediognosed. and this realli makes me upset, i can barely handle it anymore. Im constantly crying and ive been having suicidal thoughts(i dont think i will ever accually do it, i just think about how much easier it would be for my parents to get my dad better if i wasnt here)

Well a few days ago (aka the worst day ever) we had to call 9121 because my dad was so sick and the ambulence had to rush him to the hospital...

Im pretty sure im depressed, i cant talk to any of my friends because i know they try but they can never help me the best thy can do it "im so sorry im here for you" and i commend them so much for dealing with me though

Im just always sad and nothing makes me happy, ive been crying so much more lately, sleeping massive amounts, and not eating. I dont knwo what to do? How can i get myself to be happy and not so depressed.. i try to stay positive. i pray alot, but nothing helps me at all. it seems ive tryed everything.... should i seek professional help?=[

thanks so much

I'm so sorry.
I can't imagine what you're going through.

Keep in mind that many people survive cancer. There are nearly 10 million cancer survivors living in the U.S. today. That's because scientists are discovering new and better ways to find and treat cancer. Throughout all of this, it will help you to have hope.
You're not alone. Right now it might seem that no one else in the world feels the way you do. In a way you're right. No one can feel exactly like you do. But it might help to know that many teens have a parent who has cancer. Talking to others may help you sort out your feelings. Remember, you are not alone.
Balance is important. Many teens feel like their parent's cancer is always on their mind. Others try to avoid it. Try to strike a balance. You can be concerned about your parent and still stay connected with people and activities that you care about.
It can help to learn more about cancer and cancer treatments. Sometimes what you imagine is actually worse than the reality.

Talk with family that you feel close to. You owe it to yourself.
Join a support group to meet with other teens who are facing some of the same things you are. Or meet with a counselor.

Spend some time at a friend's house.
Stay involved with sports or clubs.
Relax and get enough sleep.
Take breaks. You'll have more energy and be in a better frame of mind.
Get at least 8 hours of sleep each night.
Pray or meditate.
Make or listen to music.
Keep a journal to write down your thoughts and experiences.
Draw, paint, or take photographs.
Read about people who have made it through difficult experiences in life. Learn what helped them.
Eat and drink well. Drink 6-8 glasses of water a day to help prevent fatigue. In the evening, switch to caffeine-free drinks that won't keep you awake. Grab fresh fruit, whole-grain breads, and lean meats like chicken or turkey when you have a choice. Avoid sugary foods.
Be active.
Play a sport, or go for a walk or run.

http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/When-Your-Parent-Has-Cancer-Guide-for-Teens/allpages

Good luck, and I hope everything works out okay. ;)

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