about

I'm Mary. I'm a sophomore in college and I love helping people. If you ever need advice or someone to talk to I'm here for you! Never hesitate to ask or message me. Hope I can help!

advice

Ok so my best friend has been through a lot this year. a little while ago i was pretty much her only friend then i got her reaquanted with her old friend that moved away who was also a very good friend of mine. now the friend that moved away,becca, has this brother that i really like. and she knows that and is cool with me likeing her brother. when i introduced the other girl sarah to all of them she started liking the brother. and she knows that i have liked him for a while. then this other guy came in and his name is john. he liked me and i kinda liked him but i still like the brother a lot more.and so i didnt know what i should do about my friend because i didnt want a boy to mess up a great friendship and i really want my friend to be happy. and i kinda thought that she might back off since she knows that i have liked him. so i decided that i will have john and she can have the brother. and now they are about to become a couple. and honestly im really happy for her but it hurts and i havent been around both of them yet and im scared that i might get jealous or that its just really goin to hurt to where i cant hang out with them. i guess the main thing that i feel is that my best friend came in grabed the guy i like and doesnt realize how that makes me feel. and i have helped her through alot of hard times. i have told her how i feel about him and she says that she will back off if i want her to but what friend would acctually tell her friend to back off. ok well if anybody can acctually understand this please help. sorry its confusing

Heyy, i understand your problem and don't really agree with the other answer you got.

I do think it is really nice of you to let your friend have the brother. It may not be that she doesn't care about your feelings, she may not know that you feel so hurt. It is good that you don't want a relationship to get in the way of your friendship. To prevent this, you have to talk to her. Tell her that she has to be more aware of your feelings.

Now depending on how much you really like this guy, you can either ask them to break up or just let her know what your doing for her. If she doesn't care or back off then she doesn't have her priorities straight and you should tell her friends are more important then guys and she better realize that.

I hope this makes some sense and that i helped. I really hope it works out for you, please lemme know how it goes! =]

[view]

(Rating: 4) i get what your sayin and i agree with most of it. the brother is a really good friend of mine and so if he likes her and she likes him ill just let them be together. and i like what you said about letting her know what im doin for her. i guess ill do that. the sister of the brother tells me the same things you are telling me. her and i are best friends as well. she thinks the other girl should back off and that shes not bein a real friend to me. i think ill talk to the girl and see what all is goin through her head to.
<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker