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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I am very optimistic around other people, and that brings them joy.

But, i have depression. I have a therapist and Anti-depressants.

I was dating a guy for over a year, and he cheated on me with a girl who was also cheating on her boyfriend.

He says he still cares about me, but it just hurts me more when he talks to me. I do avoid him, but its hard to avoid him in the halls at school.


Im not the boy-crazy type, or the one who obsesses over make-up clothes etc.

I just want to be happy on the inside as well.

anything at all?

When I said that you should be optimistic, I didn't mean that you should just be that way around others. It's a state of mind. You have to THINK confidently and happily, not just act as such.
Thinking confidently, like I said in my previous answer, means realizing your potential and living up to it. You know you're amazing. Believe it. Do things (getting good grades, etc) for YOURSELF, not others. But at the same time, be nice and do things for others because you want to, not because you think it will make them like you more.

I'm sorry about what that guy did to you. I honestly think that you should continue to avoid him. Unless, of course, you have something to tell him. Does he know how much he hurt you? If he doesn't, talking to him may help give you closure and allow you to move on. You deserve someone who respects you, and by cheating, he showed that he's not the most respectful guy ever.

I suggest that you talk to your therapist about this more, if you haven't done so yet. He/she may be able to help you more than I.

I hope I helped a little bit more. But, if I didn't, please send me another message. I really want to help you with anything you need.
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) yeah he knows how badly i was hurt, he just likes to bug me.

but thank you =]

you did help.
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