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Q: f/19.
i've been with him for 4 years, and counting.

my boyfriend went to get an x-ray at the hospital and ran into an old hight school friend, her name is marlo. she wasn't gorgeous, but also wasn't completely unfortunately looking. anyhow, he felt the need to text his friend saying, hey i saw marlo at the hospital, 'she was looking too fine' . i read his texts, which he doesn't mind, he reads mine all the time, but back to the point.. it really hurt me. it made me feel worthless, i honestly can say that i don't go checking out guys, i really don't. and this hurt my feelings. and made me feel so ugly on the outside. how do i get over this feeling, i feel so turned off now, i don't even want to have sex with him anymore. oh and this isn't the first time i found a text similar to this in his cell.

It is often difficult to deal with your boyfriend flirting like this with other girls, and in my opinion he really shouldn't be saying that another girl is looking 'fine', but I guess in the same aspect you shouldn't be looking in his phone, though everyone does it haha. I think the best thing for you to do it to let him know that it makes you uncomfortable that he is flirting with other girls and saying they are hot. This may cause a fight though and if you don't want that then you may just have to try and get over it. If it was me, I wouldn't be able to get over it and if I didn't tell him it would cause me to be rude to him and to close off to him and it seems that is already happening to you. You said you don't want to have sex with him, I think you should talk to him and let him know that you don't like him talking like that about other girls and that it makes you feel umcomfortable. He should understand that and if he doesn't then he probably isn't the right guy for you. I mean you should be able to trust your guy and know that he isn't going to call another girl 'fine', it could even escalate and lead to bigger problems in the future, so nip it in the bud now.

Hope I Helped.

Rating: 5

thanks. but we really don't have major fights or anything, and i fully trust him, i just wanted to know how to deal with the situation if it came up again, it's not like i could forget it in one day you know.

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