I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
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okay so im 15....
and
pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.
anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..
REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!
also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.
so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.
how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.
when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?
can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?
either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.
i live in florida if that helps?
thank you. (link)
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I'm sorry, but I can't help but step in on this one. First, I want to say something personal. I haven't been here long, (this web site), but for reasons of my own, I'm stopping answering general questions. I will still stop in here once a day and answer personal questions.
I tried to post this to the general questions forum, but obviously they are not going to post it, it has been almost 12 hours since I wrote the post.
As to you my young spirit, how can I possibly express how I feel for you? I have no poem, nor words that could possibly fit this situation. I want to say it's sorrow, but I know that to be wrong. I want to say that my heart goes out to you, but it too can not explain what my spirit feels for you. I want to embrace you, not just hug you, I want to tell you that everything will be okay, but I know it won't. I want to care for you, but I know I can't. If I could but shelter you and take this pain away from you. If I could make your father see what is right.
But in truth, I fear for you. I fear that this will crush your spirit. That something so wonderful will tear your world apart, instead of be one of the brightest spots in your life. I fear that you will be hurt from this and by a spirit who pretends to be your father.
He can NOT make you abort this child, he has no legal right to, trust me on this and put your mind at ease on the subject. There are many things that can make you spontaneously abort however, stress, physical abuse and if your father knows this, which I would bet he does, I am unsure he wouldn't use this knowedge.
I know these kind of people, those who feel they own others and in particular, their children. This makes it hard for me to advise you on this. If I tell you to tell him and he beats you to the point you lose this baby, I am responsible for you losing your child, the same goes to telling your mother. If you leave, you are a run away, and that does neither your child or you any good.
The only thing I can tell you is seek help from someone that can protect you, not people from miles away from you. There must be a hot line or something you can call and find help. Protect yourself and your child at all costs.
I send my love to you and my best thoughts follow with it dear one,
Rick Gilbertson, AKA Gilbert Mar
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my dad would never hit me just to make sure i dont mess up my life. i think your advice was great by the way! i wouldnt run away because that would just be stupid. i know once my dad calms down he will except it but i just dont want to go through all the yelling and arguing. but thank you.!
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