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why do i never get asked out?
im not bragging or anythng, but whenever i go out guys always stare at me or smile at me or stuff like that, but they never approach me or talk to me except on rare occasion.
why is this? (link)
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Your problem is, guys don't take hints, we are too stupid at that age to take hints. At my age I realize how many girls actually were interested in me, but I just didn't see it back then. We barely know our own names at that age, let alone know what a "come on" smile looks like.
We take things at face value, a smile is just that. Try this, go up to the guy, say hi, my friends were going to see this movie, would you like to come along? What ever he says, yes or no, you have let him know you're open to him approaching you. If he says no and never comes to ask you to do something else, don't take it personally. Girls are not the only ones that often are not ready to date, or have their eye set on someone else.
Your only consideration here is, if he says yes, you may have to scramble to find some friends to go to the movie with the two of you, but if you can't, tell him they backed out at the last minute.
I don't normally condone lying, but ehh, a little white lie to get the dating ball rolling, who's it going to hurt.
After a couple times of doing that, maybe even the first, the other boys will realize you're approachable and maybe they will get the courage to start asking you.
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