I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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Location: Minnesota
Age: 53
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He's really nice and smart, but kind of quiet at times. He has a fun personality though and I guess most girls would not consider him "hot" but I like him for who he is. I want someone who I can relate to in a non superficial way, and someone who will help me grow as a person, and hopefully I can do the same for him. The thing is I only see him in one class and he probably does not suspect that I like him. I try to compliment him when I can and talk to him more, but I don't sit next to him so it's kind of hard to. And I don't hang out with him during lunch or outside of school. Basically I need some kind of a way to give him a hint before summer break. I won't see him all summer, so I want to plant some kind of seed in his mind that I like him so that when school starts again, we can hopefully talk more and become closer that way. Any ideas? Thanks =] (link)
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Sweetheart, I can not tell you how much hope you have filled my heart with, hope that there are more of you out there.
I would have one piece of advice for you, choose your words wisely. Do not simply say "I like you", mixed signals if you know what I mean. The fact that you like him goes unsaid, tell him, "I would like to be your friend." Not, "I would like for you to be my boy friend."
Don't ever use hints with guys, we don't do hints well, we're kind of dumb that way. Make it clear for him what you want your relationship to be, never leave any doubt.
You make me feel proud inside, you are a diamond among coal, don't you EVER forget that.
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Thank you so much. I've read your column and you give great advice. Haha i won't hint anything to him in that case. And thank you for calling me a diamond, it really means a lot to me =].
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