I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
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I am deeply in love with a girl. She happens to be my class mate nd we are pretty close friends. I told her how i felt cos i couldnt keep it inside any longer and I thought it was best to tell her. Well she doesnt love me the way i love her for now (Thats wat she said). She says that I am a great guy and all. She just wants to be my friend for now (thats what she said exactly).So I asked her if anything could happen between us in the future (A pretty stupid move i think) and she said probably not. That hurt a lot and it still does.One of my our friend also asked her (when i was not around) if she thinks anything could happen between us in the future. She told him that she doesnt know. she likes me as a friend for now and would like to know me more. And she keeps saying i am a great guy and stuff. The problem is that I cant stop loving her. What am i supposed to do? Does anyone think I stand a chance.
we've known each other for the past 5-6 months only.. (link)
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Man, I think you may have a smart one here. Many young folk would have just jumped at this so they could say they had a boy friend, but this one wants to check you out some more, see if your what she wants. This is what you should be doing too, not just jumping on the band wagon. Because you love someone, is not enough reason to become an item, there is so very much more you have to learn about them and yourself.
Stop letting what you feel, or think you feel blind you and look at the person. Allow her to see you, not who you think she wants to see, but who you really are and look for who she really is. You have a golden opportunity here, a girl who wants to be friends, it is the best foundation to build a relationship on. Let it take you where it goes, if it's love, it will stay with you. If it's not, you will have a great friend.
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