I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
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im 18. im a lady and my best friend is a gay male. he has not been very open about it, even with... ME. but close friends know its true. starting in last october things started happening. herasment. car was keyed multipule times with hate, fag, die, and also perminent marker. keying of his car has happened various times. atleast 5. his tire had been stabbed. trees next to his house were drenched with gas and lit on fire. Various other acts have occured.. (although last june it was keyed but did not think anything of it). he has a very hard time sleeping. he has made police reports, but they dont help much, he has gone to therapy, gone to doctors. finally he came out and open to everyone right before the last car and tree lighting incident. hes always scared. he drinks ALOT now, takes alot of perscription pills for sleep and depression, although he says it doesnt help much. i hardley see him and i dont know what to do. he says he has no idea what i could do, he feels helpless himself. does anybody know anything i could try to help him feel better about himself, have alittle bit more fun, sleep, anything?? i miss him being happy please any help would be appricated (link)
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Having a backyard business during the summer has made me think even more about security. Get someone who is a bit of a do it yourselfer and mount motion sensitive lights around his house and make sure they come on even when a car drives past on the street. Two, I have noticed at Menards a two camera security system for around $300.00 dollars that is also motion sensitive. You will not catch them in the act, but it will stop the harassment. This should go a long way to reclaiming his life, but you and his other friends need to help him through the drink and other problems. Alcohol is a mood enhancer, it is making the depression worse then it is, get rid of that and don't move him out of his place, it may make things worse. A respite, yes, but he may feel like he's running from a fight, it may be worse for him. If anything, find someone who can move in with him, it's easier to help someone if they are in familiar surroundings.
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