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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
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nothing has gone right since dec of 07... i broke up with my bf for my ex who ended up hurting me more than he had in the beginning. i got back with the bf i broke up with jason and it was all good. then he left to iowa and then to basic. he got home from basic and all we did was fight he headed back to iowa for a while well the other day we got into a huge fight and broke up. i havent stopped thinkin of him and today he sent me a text saying sorry so i apologized back then he was like no im sorry i found a girl that i kinda like she is really cool. now there is nothign i can do about it... i love him so much and tried to tell him how this made me feel...but tears just fell too heavily and i just hung up. wat do i do
Well, it sounds to me like you need to find some positives in your life, since you feel it's hell. A boy should never alter your perspective on life. Life is never easier while dealing with a break up-- especially in the way that it was handed to you.
Fortunately, I have all the experience in the world with breaking up.
Right now, it's hard to keep your mind off of him, because you miss him so much. I know exactly what you're feeling. The best thing to do, though one of the hardest, is to keep yourself incredibly busy. One time I got dumped, and wrote an entire book of poetry during the summer days. I wasn't working enough yet, so I got up with old friends and sat back with new ones. The more people I had around me, the more I felt support even if the conversation wasn't about my break up.
If you find enough way to distract yourself, you be back on your game in no time. It sounds to me like even if you and this boy hadn't fought, you'd still be broken up. So don't blame yourself or your actions, and don't let him feel like he wins.
Come out over this, beyond it. It may take some pretending your happy when you're not and even some rebounds in the beginning, but it's going to work out for you.
When we get broken up with, our initial reaction is sadness-- even if we know it was bad for us to be in the relationship. I don't blame you for being sad, I only wish that you find your happiness.
Good luck!
(Rating: 5) you really made me see everything in another way... im very grateful for you help with a complete stranger. shows there are some good ppl. the reason everything is hard is my best guy friend ditched out on me cuz he couldnt stop wanting more and it was hurting him which i understand but he was the person i told everyting to then when he was gone i talked to my bf all the time. now he is gone i literally have no one. if i told my mom my true feelings of everything she would blow it all out of proportion like she does and the next bet would be my 5 year old neice and we all know where that would end up... "sesame street and some ice cream will make it better auntie" so i feel a bit surrouded by all this ya know but thanks man for sure