I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
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Okay,
I have this guy friend from High School whom I never really knew very well but we spoke here and there. It's been four years since I've graduated I haven't seen him. He just recently came to town to visit family and I went to spend time with him with a few "girl" friends of mine. Almost right away he started to flirt with me and get all obsessive over me. He would follow me, and say (I would be that boyfriend that would cuddle with you, protect you etc) and it got extremely annoying and I made it clear that I was in a relationship and seeing someone but I figured we could be friends so I gave him my phone number and he called me 15 times in one hour!...and I've told him to back off and that I no longer want to be his friend because he abused it.
What should I do?? (link)
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This one really came out of his shell, you should always be careful with guys, or girls who use to have a crush on you. Don't give them your phone number and don't give them an opening by saying "let's be friends", but I'm preaching to the choir here aren't I?
Be firm, give him no more openings and tell him, "don't make me change my phone number". Don't give the power to him by telling him he's scaring you, but if he continues tell him you're beginning to think he's not all there and maybe he should see a shrink. If he's not crazy, I doubt you'll hear from him after that. If you do, then you have a problem that requires more professional help, like the law.
I'm not saying this to scare you, everyone should do this, learn to use a gun. If nothing else, it will give you more confidence in being able to protect yourself. Target shooting can be a lot of fun too.
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Thanks!
I think I will go with changing my phone number ;)
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