I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
Thank you for coming to my column and giving me the chance to help.
E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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Age: 53
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Maybe 6 months ago I enjoyed life. I changed schools, made loads of new friends, I was doing ok in school and I had enough free time.
Now, when I get home from school I basically have to start studying straight away, otherwise I won't have enough time for everything. The only thing I'm looking forward to is going to a festival at the end of June...and I can only go to that if I don't fail anything on my final report. When I'm in school, I tend to feel worthless...there was a guy who'd always be with me, and then one day, he told me he had a girlfriend and I felt torn apart. Now when I look at myself in the mirror I just see s*it.
Anything I could do to make myself feel better?
People tell me I'm pretty, funny and I have a great personality but I don't feel it.
I used to be so outgoing, funny and bright...what's happened to me?
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It amazes me how many people turn right away to mood changing drugs just because of a down swing. You have answered all already in your letter. You are experiencing morning at the loss of someone you should be calling a friend. Because he is see someone else, he can not be your friend? Secondly, there are times in our life that we take on too much and it becomes overwhelming. What was not too much for you 6 months ago, is now, drop something(s) for awhile and stop trying to be super girl at 15.
You will have your ups and downs through life, don't try to cover them up, learn to except them and deal with them. Find people on your path in life to help you and don't dismiss them just because they have a girl friend, a boy friend, are married, or are waaaay older then you.
Be well, save the super girl part for when you are much older and become a super mom.
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