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Q: ok so my boyfriend did a lot of stuff with a lot of girls about 5 or 6 years ago...when we weren't together. About 2 or 3 weeks before we started dating he did something with this other girl that I was and still am extremly jelous of, because she liked my boyfriend the same time I did but he chose me (him and I have been together 2 and a half years and we are getting married in october) I didn't know that he did anything with this girl until he and I were together for about 6 months ( around the time we started to have sex) but last night and a few other times I just had the worst feelings and images. I sometimes just zone out and picture him with her and I can't get it out of my mind. I know he doesn't like her and I know the reason he had sex with her wasn't the most romantic...but I hate the feeling that I felt.
I guess I am asking if anyone has ever had that happen to them and what way did you find the best to get rid of the feeling.

Ohh yeah I have totally been where you are. I did and do the same thing with the boy I am with now. Even though I know he loves me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, I picture him with his ex's and it tears me apart. What I do to avoid it is completely just try not to think about it, but that gets really hard sometimes and when it does I just start talking to him, he tells me how much he loves me and wants to be with me and that helps me to get the picture out of my head. I also think that he probably does the same thing with all of my ex-boyfriends and I know that I love him and would never hurt him and that also helps knowing that he does the same thing.

If you know he loves you and you are getting married just remember that everytime you get those feelings and thoughts, if he didn't love you then he wouldn't have proposed.

Hope I Helped.

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Thank you very much! It is great that you know that things aren't just that easy!

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