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i had a gf that lasted over one year. she said she just didn't want a bf anymore so i was cool with it. i also asked her, if there was another guy. she swore there wasn't.

i kid you not, 2 weeks later,she kissed my best friend, and told another one of my friends she liked them. both like her back.

i have no idea what to do with myself. i want to stop talking to her, because i hate her SO MUCH.

yet, everynight i still call her out of habbit and we talk like nothings wrong, i mean, it's almost like we're going back out, kinda talk.

but then the next day always come and i find out she's hanging out with 1 of 2, or BOTH of my best friends and is cuddling with them, and carrying on. and she still has the nerve to tell me she loves me, and cares about me.

i'm so frustrated, so mentally drained, so stressed it's ridiculous.

i know things will get better in time, but right now, everything just sucks.
Just because she is interested in other guys doesn't mean that she still doesn't care about you. She is comfortable with you and feels close to you which is why you both still talk to one another and say I love you. You dated for almost a year so you can't just expect to drop her, it is very hard to get over someone and live without them after that long. Even if you do move on you still miss their company and talking to them.

My ex and I dated for 3 years then broke-up and to this day we are still good friends. Being friends helps alot because neither of us have to give up that connection an relationship we had. Yes, its different but at least we can still talk and that makes everything alot easier. I think you should talk to your ex and let her know that you are uncomfortable with the whole situation. Tell her that you think you should kind of grow apart while she is talking to these guys. Unless you feel like you want to continue the relationship it would probably be easier to let go for a while.

Hope I Helped.

honestly, she doesn't care what i think anymore, she's told all of her friends that.

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