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Q: First of all, I'm 18, bisexual, and in an open relationship (mainly because I'm not willing to commit to one person yet). In other words, I'm dating three people at the same time. They all know that I am seeing other people as well, and they're okay with that, so don't give me trouble about the open relationship thing. Also, I'm being safe about STDs/pregnancies, so yeah.

I used to be in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend. It was not an open relationship. Basically, once we had sex, that's what the focus of our relationship was. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE having sex with him. But I want more, like being about to hang out and have a good time without making out or taking off clothes. He's one of the guys I'm currently dating now because I really want this to work out with him (the whole not just having sex all the time thing).

My question is, how can I do this? I don't mind having sex with him at all, even if it's every day. But maybe a few hours of nonsexual activity beforehand.

Another quick question. I'm considering settling down with only one of my partners. The thing is, all three of them are only available to see me about once a week due to their busy schedules, which is not enough for me. Help?
Well it seems like you have decided who you want to be with and I think for you to show him that you want more maybe it shouldn't be an open relationship. Sit him down and let him know that you care about him, but that you want more than a physical relationship. Tell him that you would really like to try a closed relationship with conversations and fun times that are not always revolved around sex.

Sex is a great way to connect, but you have to make sure you aren't just in it for the sex. Any and all relationships need some good communication and connection on other levels to make them work. About the schedule thing there is really nothing you can do about it, try and get thme to set certain times aside to see you, that way you can decide who you want to be with. They have to be willing to make exceptions for you and so do you.

Hope I Helped.

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