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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.
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Ok i'm 14 and have never had a real boyfriend. Now my best friend in the whole world has been doing stuff with guys since like 5th grade or something. Me on the other hand have only held hand with a guy once and it was extremely awkward because of the situation (long story). And it's not like i dont like guys or something cause i do. See i love her to death but she gets on my nerves alot because sometimes when were talking about her "guy problems" she gets all mad at me and says "well if you ever get a boyfriend you'll know thats it's difficult" now i understand relationships are difficult i like to think i'm not stupid but she always says stuff like that or "well if you'd get a boyfriend you'd know what i'm talking about" and i mean getting a boyfriend isnt that easy she makes it sound like you can just say hey your hott be my boyfriend or something well maybe for some people that works but not for me and it's not like i dont want a boyfriend but i have better things to do with my life first you see the fact that i'm 14 and never even had a boyfriends scares the crap out of me because i always think i'm going to end up alone and my friend saying stuff like that doesnt exactly help te situation but really i'm not like my friend i dont want to do "stuff" with a guy unless i'm "in love" you know i'm waiting for marriage and stuff like that i mean i more into the long time relationships not the date for a week kind of relationship and it's not like there anything wrong witht that but i'm not that kind of person i want true love anywho my questions are is my friend right to say stuff like that? Is she really even acting like a friend? Is something wrong me since i'm 14 and have not had a boyfriend?

Hi i'm gonna answer your questions backwards...first off there is absolutely nothing wrong with you not having a boyfriend. Like you said you're still only 14, enjoy your time. There is no need to complicate things with a guy. Now about your friend, its not really right for her to say things like that to you, but I wouldn't go as far as saying shes not being a friend. You just need to explain to her that you aren't ready to have a boyfriend. Just explain exactly what you said here. If shes your friend she'll respect your decision. Also I have a lot of respect for your decision, and if it makes you feel any better i never had a boyfriend until i was 20. So my suggestion for you is to wait until you are ready and until the guys are more mature.

good luck and don't ever give in to peer pressure.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks you helped alot. It's nice to know i'm not the only one who is waiting for the right time to have a boyfriend or anything.
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