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hi, ok well i was just wondering... i was just talking to my bf and im 14 and hes 16 and we have been best friends for like 2 years and everything and he and i makeout a lot whenever we see each other (like once a week) and i was asking him how far we would go right now in our relationship (3 months) he said 2nd (touching a girl's breast) and we have gotten close he has touched me through my bra once and my shirt one other time but im very protective of that one of the two times he did without asking and he said he was very sorry and promised not to again. anyway im moving in June so i asked what about when i leave how far? our relationship would be about 5 months. he said a hj. i was very surprised because ya hes horny like very other guy but he tries really hard to be good. he has set limits and wont put himself in a position like being home alone with me because he doesnt trust himself. hes very responcible. but hes also a 16 yr old guy. well he would be-hes turning 16 in May. yay he turns 16 and gets a hj lol

so first off if i wanted to give him a hj is that normal (i kno everyone says do what your comfortable with but would u say most 16 yr old guys have gotten a hj) the thing is im only 14 tho. a freshman. hes also a freshman but hes much older im younger and hes older. he and i are deeply in love tho so it wont be like i do that with every guy or w/e.

it would both of our firsts. he said yes because it would be somthing to remember each other by.

also dont worry cause i know i wont because im not comfortable with that. my bf doesnt know that i wont but i do. i just had some questions about if i did want to.

and i know i dont have to i mean he didnt even ask i said how far would you let us go.

thanks :)

You guys are taking it slow. A HJ is really not a big deal at all. Just do it when you feel comfortable. He may want it but it doesn't mean you HAVE to and he knows this. He is respectful which is really good. This is really your decision. Giving HJs is normal. It's one of the first steps of getting comfortable with each other, sexually. Which in the end leads to getting closer to each other mentally. You guys take it slow so I don't see how it is a problem. Just remember to still take it slow after that step. And stay careful. Your age is kinda young to start getting sexually active, but it's not anyones decision but yours. It wouldn't matter age if you are really comfortable with doing that with him. Hopefully this helps. If you need to know anything else just lemme know.

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(Rating: 5) thanks-really good advice :)
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