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Q: ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.

my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.

he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.

i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]

It sounds a little more like lust to me and there is nothing wrong with that. Having a best friend you can make out with can be a super plus and you both have no strings attached, but you will probably run into jealousy issues if you break up and begin dating someone new. I think that you just have to decide whether you really care about this boy in a loving way or just a lustful way. If you can't go a moment without thinking about him, if you smile just at the thought of him, if you want to be with him all the time and would do absoultely anything for him, then its love. But if you just are attracted to him sexually and you don't worry about him and think about him like I said above then it's probably just lust. You guys should probably just keep it on the friends level and maybe after you break up and are away you may feel you really did like him. If so maybe you can work it out. This is really just one of those times you have to go with your heart and gut.
But remember you don't want to lead this guy on and end up hurting him in the end.

Hope I Helped.

Rating: 5

thanks great advice!! :]

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