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I'm a twin. End of story. My twin sister is funny, more confident than me and sometimes I think better looking (people say we look very different). I'm in what will be a long term relationship and already has lasted a year, and I'm very sure that my boyfriend loves the hell out of me, just like I love the hell out of him!
My problem? I've shared everything with my sister for my whole life. Friends, everything. Her and him, they're close friends. Shes always telling him her problems and they talk on a personal scale. They joke around and stuff and sometimes when hes talking to me about like, e.g. when theyve been alone together he's not entirely truthful. Oh, I don't mean anything like they DO anything together, I trust him in that sense. But I get so scared. I can do everything she can do, but I'm not as confident and although I equal her in things like drama I'm kind of the quieter one, who likes a good laugh and whose more academically skilled. I just get so worried that he likes me - and hes said that he used to fancy her - and we're twins! How can he not like her as much as he likes me? we look relatively the same (we're identical but don't like to look the same), she's brighter, more full of life. The other day, although they constantly abuse each other and flirt for fun, he rung her up expecially so he could walk with her to school. I somehow don't think he'd do the same for me. He says I'm the better twin, that I'm worth alot more than her, but he doesn't show it in his actions. What do you think he thinks? What would you feel in his position? I'm confused and probably shouldn't be, am probably overreacting. He can talk as much as he wants with other girls. By my twin? That feels so different. Its like they have a whole kind of different other relationship. Please help.
Thank you, Faye :) ^^ (link)
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Dear Faye,
Well first I would say maybe you feel a little inferior to her and that is effecting your relationship with your boyfriend. You could possibly just be taking the signs to seriously. But if it douse not cool off and you still feel like something is wrong talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him to just cut back a bit on the flirting and stuff. They can still be friends but you just feel like he isn't spending as much time with you as your twin.
Sincerely Maggie Maclean
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thank you very much, always good to have a rational voice :D
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