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Q: Okay wel sorry if this will be long but i have a lot to say and i need an ear to talk to...

I used to like this boy a long time ago (last year) and i told him how i felt and it pretty much just scared him off. But i got over that and now i like this one guy, cj, but he is different than drew (he was the guy i liked first) i dont know why but i just care more about him and i want him to want me like i want him. You know what im saying. But im not obsessed or anything like that. He had a girlfriend and i waited.

At one point i thought he liked me. Because we never talked at all, and he would look at me, until i caught him, then he would look away. And he threw a paper ball at me. Then like 5 weeks ago he told me he had a girlfriend and all, but it came up casually in a conversation. And about a week ago, he was seriously flirting with me, and this past tuesday i found out that him and his girlfriend broke up. Now we still talk and everything, but i am having self doubt.

I feel like i am getting my hopes up and i dont have a chance. He is a senior and i am a freshman but im 15 and hes 18...only three years, and we are a small community and the senior boys arent really like players, well most of them. But he is really nice and sweet. I dont want to ruin it by coming on too strong. But he was saying that he likes to talk about his feelings and he is sort of a romantic and likes a girl thats fun and has a sense of humor, (which is pretty much me in a nutshell) and he said i can be dumb funny and cute at the same time... he was teasing me and touching me with his arm constantly. I just mesh with him...

But:
1) Do you think i have a chance at all?
2) do you think he was just being nice while he was flirting or is there something there?
3) Do you think i am getting ahead of myself?
4) How should i handle this? Normally i would tell a guy i liked him as long as he dont have a girlfriend and he dont but he is the only one i have ever had trouble dealing with this. Like im not nervous or anything..you know what i mean?

Sorry its so long but i need guidance.. :)

1.) You absolutely have a chance with him. He seems to really like you or have an interest.

2.) It's always hard to tell with guys. Most guys can put on an act and sometimes we're not sure what they're really thinking. So I might be wrong on this but I think he's trying to start "casual" flirting. Maybe he's trying to see if you're "worth" starting something. Meaning that he's going to compliment and flirt with you and see how you react. If he likes you he'll probably ask you out on a date. I'm sure he just wants to get to know you and what your intentions are. I wouldn't make assumptions just yet. He just broke up with his girlfriend so he might still want a break from a relationship right now. So continue to talk and flirt and things should fall into place eventually.

3. Maybe. As I said he recently broke up with his girlfriend. He might need some time. But you have a fair chance at this. Just keep going with it and don't rush yourself to thinking anything serious.

4. Flirting is a good way to let him know you're interested without telling him. You should do to him what he's doing to you. Flirt with him and look at his reactions. If you TRULY think he like you then let him know. But as of now it seems like you're not completely sure. You don't want to come off too quickly like you said. Pay close attentions to his body language and his words because those are usually key for telling whether he likes you more than just a friend. You said that most seniors are players and it might be true that he is too. But get to know him first before you make that decision. Open up to him about yourself and invite him to get to know you. If you want to stand out say something shoking that most girls wouldn't. For instance if there is something about you that is different from everyone else let him know that. He'll probably be really intrigued and he'll keep you on his mind.

Okay, so ...over all... don't rush into things, continue to flirt and talk, pay attention to his reactions and body language, keep confident, and stand out. :) Good luck sweetie!

Rating: 5

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! i am good at this when it comes to other people but when its me,,,oh my gosh i am horribly awful at it...ha ha

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