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Q: most of my friends are girls ima guy. one of my very good friends probly my best and i became friends not to long ago and it went straight up from there. we were both home sick all this week so far. we talked the whole time i was awake. i helpd her plan her birthday and she always texts me the chainmail sayin i love you or stuff like that how much she cares for me. i care for her alot to i just dont picture us dating were the kind of friends that are super close and very flirty but just not relationship kinda people. shes also having a very hard time with this other guy. after hearing all hes done to her i hate him. but i just dont really know what to do. i dont want to hurt her shes been hurt enough in one week than most people are in a life time. him and her fighting then being friends again have been going on for about a year. her bdays on valintines day what should i do or say to her. id die if she would get more hurt after i kill the guy who hurt her. but i just dont love her romantically i say just friends but we care and flirt with eachother way to much. what do i do?

I used to like my very best guy friend. And he liked me. We never ended up dating though. Best friends that you kinda sort like are the oddest. First things first though, limit flirting as much as possible! If she is already having guy trouble, she doesn't need any more confusion, you don't have to stop completely, because that would be obvious and she will think something is up with you, and that's not really what you are going for. Buy her something nice for her birthday, but don't do anything with her for actual Valentine's Day. (If that makes any sense at all.) Make sure it is obvious that you are celebrating her birthday instead. Try the friends with benefits thing for a while, yeah it might get messy, but...you have to try something, something that you both can agree to. Talk to her about her asshole boyfriend and how you hate seeing him hurt her constantly. Bottom line? Talk with her, sort things out. Be honest. That's the best advice I can give.

Rating: 5

thanks but hes not her boyfriend their just realllly good friends but then they end up hating eachother it never stops

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