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i am very stressed out about everything in my life right now and im just sick of it i dont know how to stop caring about what other people say about me behind my back and i cant help but try to make everything i do be perfect so that people wont have a reason to talk but i just cant keep doing this stress has taken over me and its caused me to have really low self esteem ever since i reached the age of 13 all ive been worrying about is what others have to say is there anything i could do to build up my self esteem? and stop stressing?

I think everyone who was or is a teenager has gone through that stage. I've gone through it and yes, at times, I go back to that stage but there is one thing you need to remember; Don't worry about what other people think of you. There are always going to be people who stick up their noses at you but what comes around goes around.

It seems you feel the need to be accepted. Ask yourself these questions -Who is always criticizing me? -Who are my true friends? -Who am I trusting nowadays? I know for a fact that people who seem like they are friends, really aren't. One main problem that is causing this "accept me stage" is mostly from the "cool crowd" or your "so called friends." Hun, if they talk about you behind your back, they aren't true friends.

To stop stressing, I would recommend taking a day off every week. Maybe on a Saturday. Do some things that you haven't done in a while that you miss. For example, maybe if you have a hot tub, go inside of it. Or if you have money, go shopping with friends. When you feel really stressed out, go to the bathroom and breathe in from your mouth and out through your nose. Tell yourself everything will be alright. More then that, believe that everything will be alright. Studies show that stretching in some cases help you lose the burden of stress.

To build up self esteem you must have self acceptance. Accept who you are, how you look, what you think, and what you feel. You must also be living in the present. Forget about the past. What's done, is done. Let it go. WORK CITED; http://www.lifepositive.com/mind/personal-growth/self-love/esteem.asp

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