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i was talking to this guy that i have never seen him or heard him before. (his mom set us up) and i called him one night and four guys was talking to me like i was a peice of trash actually. They was asking me a whole bunch of questions, like what i was wearing and if i would have sex with them (except in a more pig-like manner.) And dont get me wrong i am not making an effort any more with him. But if he does call, which he probably wont, what should i say. I mean if talks like that with his friends, then he could talk like that all the time. And if i see him then what do i do? do i go off? cause i was really really mad. like i was crying because i was afraid of who or what i might hurt. i was shaking. and i just dont know why boys act like that and why they would want to talk like that to a girl. but what would i do in those scenarios? and would one consider the talk sexual harrasment? thanks

Hun, you really need to tell your mom what happened. That violates you in so many ways. It is verbal sexual harrasment. If that's the way this guy acts around his friends, he doesn't deserve you. If he calls, change your number or hang up. If you see him, walk away. Ignore him to the best of your abilities. You do not need a guy like that. He does not deserve your tears or anger. Let it go. Better yet, let him go.

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