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I am happily married for over 12 years and have 3 children: ages 6, 4, and 2. Family is the most important thing in the world and I want to help families work out problems so they do not have to be torn apart.
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i want to break up with my boyfreind but i just dont know how to tell him, i mean i like him and all but he's just just sooo much like me, cuz im usually not real quiet, but i am if you dont start a conversation and keep on going, and he doesnt he's just real quiet, i mean sometimes he'll talk but not very often.
is there any way that i can end it with a good reason?!?!?! cuz i know he's gonna be like "why?" and i wont know how to answer.... (link)
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Breaking up is somtimes hard to do, especially if you still like the person, you just don't want to be in a relationship with them.
I would suggest something along the lines of beginning with "I have something to talk to you about and it isn't going to be easy". That way you are giving him the warning that the following statements are unlikely to be good news. Then say something like "I really like you and have enjoyed our time together. I just don't think we belong in a relationship together". If he asks why just say you aren't really sure yourself, you just think the two of you were meant more to be friends. You can even be honest with him that you two are so much alike, that you both have quiet personalities and you think you might both be better off with someone a little more talkative (or extraverted depending on how you feel wording something like that... I don't know your age so this word may sound a little nerdy).
He may not like it. He may be angry with you for such a silly reason for breaking up. The fact remains that, assuming you are a teenager, you have the right to explore relationships. If you don't think this is the one you want to be in, you have the right to not be in it. It is always best to try to be polite but don't let him make you feel like you should stay in this relationship because you don't "have a good reason" to break up. Your conversations do not tend to flow easily and you want to be with someone you can REALLY talk to. He's just not it. And there's that old cliche of "we can still be friends" which you probably actually feel, but be forewarned that he may not. Of course, I don't know him so he may agree with you and may actually have been wanting to say the same thing to you and just didn't know how!!! These things happen too.
I also recommend doing this in a quiet place actually face to face with him. This usually makes it more personal and lets him know you arent just blowing him off. If adds more feeling. Calling is second best because at least he actually gets to hear your voice. Breaking up in a letter is never good. I recommend doing it face to face... and I would wait until after school too. This can give him a few hours to realize it and sleep on it and come to terms with it. If you tell him in the morning before school, now he has all day to get bitter about it and give you dirty looks and such.
I hope this gave you some assistance. Good luck.
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thx sooooo much the advice really helped!!!
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