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Ok well im 14/f and i kind of want to ask about birth control but i dont want it to be awkward. my period tends to be long like 7 days while my moms is only 5 and i havent even had it for a year but i really dont like it. I've started getting some pain because of it just mild cramping and lower back pain but im also kind of more tired i think and i got it in the beginning of nov. and now i just got it again! its only like 20 days in between and sum of those birth controls sound so cool like only having your period for 4 days every other month or w/e. for sum reason i just really dont like my period! i dont know why i just don't. it doesnt really hurt or anything it just makes things more difficult i guess. anyway am i too young to think of asking for birth control? i have an abstinence ring and def. am not going to have sex so would my mom still want to say no or what? thanks! (link)
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I would like to start by saying you should be SO PROUD of yourself for the abstinence ring. Though I am not entirely sure what that is... anything that starts with abstinence I like!!! I abstained until I was married, as did my husband and we are trying to teach our kids that route. Good for you!!!!!
Ok... so an answer for you....
I agree with the one answer you got from dancedance. If you discuss with your mom how miserable you are with your periods and possibly even suggest seeing a doctor to see if there is anything you can do to help with discomfort and/or irregularity, the birth control topic MAY come up.
BUT... try with your mom and physician to think of alternatives. I am not trying to be anti-birth control. I was on it myself when I first got married. My problem is that a lot of women get put on birth control without doing research or knowing the facts. Birth control CAN (not necessarily IS) be dangerous. You may or may not know about a risk for blood clots and heart attacks. If you have a history of cancer, particularly breast cancer in your family, the hormones in birth control can increase your risk of developing this. Also... for THOUSANDS of years women have been having yearly cycles. Now, for the past few years (around 5 or 6 years) women have had access to b.c. that allows you to have one period ever 3 months or even just 4 per year. I an horrified at what is going to happen in about 10 years when women have been on this for a while and discover how unnatural it is to only have a few cycles a year. I don't know what the outcome will be, but at least consider it. Be safe with b.c. and possibly consider those that you still have a monthly cycle. Don't get all excited about the option of fewer cycles.
A positive aspect to b.c. is in my experience, I had a lighter period, for only about 4 days, and it was like clock work every month. It was great. I would never go back on them because of the hormones and my family history of cancer... but it was convenient at the time.
One last thought... I am now a mother myself. Granted, my eldest child is only 4 and both my present kids ( I am pregnant and do not yet know what it is) are boys... but I can speak as a parent. If you are completely open and honest with your mom, and especially if you have a good relationship with her... let her know everything. Even let her in on the abstinence ring if you are comfortable doing that. If my sons came to me and told me about that, the bond between me and my son would become so huge... I would be the happiest mom on earth. Just be honest. Your mom wants what is best for you.
Good luck.
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Thanks! That helped a lot and put it in a new perspective! An abstinence ring is a ring you where on your wedding finger and it has a scripture from the bible about staying pure until marriage. It keeps me accountable and is a promise to both myself and my future husband to not have sex until I'm married. I just entered high school so this summer my friends and i got one! and you really did help! thanx :)
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