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I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.

This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.

I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?

Any advice or stories would help.

I'm in the very same situation as you, so don't feel bad. The guy I was seeing just went in the Army in September. We were never boyfriend/girlfriend or anything, but I have really strong feelings for him & I think he likes me.
Anyways, I can tell you that it's going to be hard. You will probably do a lot of crying. It might not really hit you that he's leaving until a few days before. It didn't hit me until the night before. :/
He's going to basic training, right? I'd imagine so, lol. But don't expect to really hear anything from him from about a month. They get one short phone call every Sunday. (That's for the Army anyways, not sure about the Marines, but I think it might be the same.) He can write, but he won't have much time to write while he's there. Trust me, from what my guy told me they get like 2 minutes to eat a full course meal, and they have to wake up at 4 in the morning. I didn't get a letter from my guy until almost a month after he left. But just because he might never call or write, doesn't mean he's not missing you or thinking about you :) Make sure you give him your address and number before he leaves or you won't get to talk to him at all.
Other than that, all I can really say is just bear with him & be there for him. He's more than likely going through the same thing because a lot is about to change for him. He'll be someone totally different where he doesn't know anyone, away from everyone & everything he knows. He won't get to see home for months, depending on what's he's going to do. And if the whole war thing is going on when he gets back, there is a good chance he might be deployed overseas. :/ They told my guy there was an 15% he was NOT going overseas. So yeah, I'd say just stay for him a little while, until you know if you can handle it or not, then make your decision. If you two are meant to be then everything will work its way out. I hope I helped some! :)

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(Rating: 5) So helpful, thank you:)
Good luck with your guy, I appreciate the advice!
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