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I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.

This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.

I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?

Any advice or stories would help.

I personally think if you have strong feelings for him that they are not going to go away. So you breaking up with him or saying you don't know if you can handle it or not isn't going to make it any easier. You will probably just always wonder "what if" about the relationship, you know. In my opinion I would say just stay with him and see how things go. Your going to have to expect well missing him of course and being worried about him and how he is and wanting to see him and everything, it's not going to be no piece of cake. The way i look at it things in life that are worth it aren't going to be easy. If you did decide to just be friends, you know you're gonna have about the same worries if not more for him. I have a friend that is in the army and he is actually missing in action right now for abot 5 months so far. It's hard, but at least i know that i was there writting him and trying to show my support the best i could. Just make sure he knows either way that you love and support him for being such a strong person and doing what he is doing for our freedom.
Good luck to the both of you!

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, your right about wondering what if:)
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