Yep. I'm totally in the same situation...It's a small world, haha. It sucks, doesn't it? I'm not even gonna tell you to meet new people or anything. Because that's probably what everyone else might say. I'll say something from a different point of view, instead of scolding you. My advice is: Just confront him and yell at him or something. Tell him that you like him, you want him to visit, and if he has any feelings or respect for you, that he shouldn't really mention those girls in front of you. BUT - don't be too picky about the whole 'girls' part. Guys tend to get annoyed when you're trash talking their many "girls"...(do you have proof that they're real and he's not lying?)- He will think you're jealous, and that just might ruin your friendship. Now, I must advise the #1 important thing - Make 100 percent SURE that he's not some 67 year old pedophile who lives in a box or something. If you got past that - good. Try communicating with him in other ways. Voice talking on MSN or something...webcam. Get closer to him. Ask him what he really thinks of you. Act cute, send pictures and ask for pictures back :) (nothing bad, of course) and no matter what...whenever he mentions his girlfriends or whatever, act NICE. =] Even if you don't mean it. Also, make sure to repeat that "Oh..I'm going to Europe this summer" or something..."Wanna visit me? or should i visit you?" You sound like a pretty knowledgeable person....You question whether you'll meet or not. Well, don't get too upset about that part. Most, if not, some.. relationships like this do eventually work out :) I hope all is for the best...and honestly....if you have ANY questions or anything, ask me. I know about these things and it interests me...=]]]]

Thank you SO much. I knew whenever I wrote this I'd probably be getting some sarcasm and negative things from people, so it's nice to hear things from someone whose in the same boat.

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And believe me, I totally made sure he's not a pedophile, haha! We both got cams, so I've seen him on that and stuff so we're both real teenagers haha.

And yeah, I know how they get annoyed which is why I'm not sure exactly what to do. Well it's not total for sure proof and of course I got it from the relationship ruiner for people - I saw it on comments on his page and everything of him telling girls they're hot and a bunch of stuff like that.



Yeah I'm so skeptic about this. Like I'm pretty positive we'll never meet, but I still wanna give it a shot and at least say I tried. It's pretty much all on him now wether he really wants to meet me [ he's out of school and 18 whereas i'm still in school and 16 so he's more able to come over here then I would be to over there ] so hopefully he'll want to or something.


Yeah I just gotta figure out how to tell him these things. I keep dropping little hints and he'll sometimes say cute things back so I have the feeling he truly does like me, it's just the whole distance thing that's setting him off. I just hate confronting guys about things, haha. :S It always makes me nervous.

But anyways, thank you SOSOSOSO much!

I'm Annie and I'm 16. I know a lot about being stressed and anxious and all those things teens go through. I also know a great deal about relationships. I just went through a breakup and I know what guys can be capable of doing. I'd love to help. ;]

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