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Hi everyone! My pen name is Hannah and I am a 17-year-old girl. I like languages, friends, cats, and many other things. I really love giving advice, and I am studying psychology now. My favorite questions have to do with mental health. As I said above, I am taking psychology classes now, but I also do a lot of outside research, so chances are that if you say something to me about a disorder or anything like that, I will know what you are talking about. Although I am not a licensed psychologist, I hope to someday be one and I would love to get some practice here.

Also, if you ever have a problem and you like my advice and would like to talk with me, I have many messenger services so I would be more than happy to set up a time to talk with you about whatever you need.

I hope to here from you soon!

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i don't know what's wrong with me, but for some reason i can't get a boyfriend.I'm 15/f and I haven't had one [or a kiss] in the LONGEST. im becoming more and more depressive and lonely as days go by. It kills me inside to have to watch couples everywhere, specially because i know its MY fault. i get "hollered" at A LOT even walking down the street, so i know its not because im ugly or anything.lately, i cant even hold ANYONE'S glance for more than 2 seconds. im also the least outgoing out of, well, basically everyone i meet, and everything depresses me. i dont know what to do to get over my stupid shyness and get a boyfriend despite my lack of motivation to do so. I bet people, including my own friends, think im lesbian or something. what do you guys think?

I had the exact same problem as you, so you aren't alone. I am very shy, and I had trouble even making friends.

First, it is very important that you don't measure your worth or your happiness by your relationship status. It isn't fair to you and you will make yourself feel worse.

Are you shy around everyone, or just boys that you like? If you are shy around everyone, practice raising your hand in class or inviting someone new to sit at your table during lunch. If you are just shy around boys you like, you can follow these steps. You can even follow them if you are shy around everyone, if you want to. :)

1.) Imagine yourself having a conversation with a boy you like. Imagine everything going well. Don't imagine any flaws.

2.) Try to have a conversation with a guy friend, a friend's boyfriend, or another boy that you aren't interested in. Talk about anything. This will give you confidence and it will show you that you can talk to guys.

3.) Have a conversation with a boy you like. Now that you have had the practice, you should be able to do this step with more ease.

Remember to have a positive attitude. Also, a good idea is to practice on boys while you are on vacation or away from home for another reason. If you get embarrassed, it won't matter much because you won't see the person again.

Don't worry, you are still young. You're 15. I know you want a boyfriend, but remember that there will be a lot of guys in the future, and they will come when you aren't looking. :) A new school year is starting up, so maybe a new boy will catch your eye.

I'm sorry if I don't have a lot of tips for you, but I didn't know how shy you are and who you are shy around. I didn't want to give too much information that wouldn't apply to you. If you have anymore questions or want more information, feel free to ask me. :)

Good luck,
Hannah

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(Rating: 5) Oh my God don't apologize! I'm glad you even read this. Thanks so0 much for the help, and i will try to practice.Again, thank you =].
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