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I Dont Understand..
..People when they say that they regret losing their V for the first time ..
What is there to regret?
I mean you've gained experience and so can make yourself better for the person you really want to impress.
And also it wont hurt when you find that special person, and so can enjoy it more and focus on making them feel good.
Im still a virgin [and proud] but im getting to that age when sex sort of matters, is part of a relationship, and I talk to my friends about 'being ready' ..
.. and how a couple of weeks go i was a bit tipsy at a party, and I saw my ex and we kissed but I had to leave, but i reckon that If Id have stayed I wouldnt be a virgin in the morning..but i was all up for it
But they all say 'Its Good You Left because You would have regret it..'
But I dont understand that..
Yes I wouldnt like the feeling of being used or anything..but what else is there to regret?
And also if your saving yourself for a good person wouldnt it be better to have experience first?
thankyooo x
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There are many reasons.
Maybe the guy you thought really cared about you suddenly is not so interested after the sex. And you feel used and betrayed.
Maybe you're disappointed because you thought it was going to be pleasurable, but instead the inexperienced guy lasted like 20 seconds and all you felt in that time was pain. Not exactly what you see in the movies!
If you're not comfortable enough with the guy you can be self-conscious of your body, worried if you're doing this or that right, etc. and you don't enjoy it because you're not confident yet or comfortable enough to do it- so again, it's not an enjoyable experience.
The guy could end up being either totally selfish or ignorant of how to pleasure a girl and only be interested in his own pleasure-
I could go on and on but I think you get the point. There are many reasons why you could end up regretting it. That's why older people say 'wait until you are ready'. They aren't just saying it to drive you crazy. They are saying it from experience!
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