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Location: Chesterfield, VA
Occupation: Project Manager
Age: 29
Member Since: July 17, 2007
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Okay so heres the deal.. Ive been talking to this guy for a month now.. its going great.. he lives in Virginia.. he came down on Saturday night to see his family and see me too.(hes here for a visit for a week). We met on Sunday.. Had a great time.. and the next day I asked him if he wanted to do something on Tuesday.. he said he dont think hes doing anything but he will let meknow.. ok.. day goes by.. next day I ask him.. wondering if u still wanted to do something today.. didnt respond to that but he tells me that hes soo tired went to the border yesterday(monday) and had to renew something and that he came back at 4 in the morning..took him 7 hrs to get there and that he is exhausted.. I had mentioned that he shud rest so that tomarrow he will be refreshed.. and he agreed.. and then went offline. My question to you is....do u think its wise to ask him if he wants to see me again.. honestly speaking? or am I jumping the gun too quickly..
To me, it sounds like he probably is interested in spending time with you to some degree, but 1) is busy with his family and other stuff you have to cram in a short visit home, and 2) isn't making you a priority. You've put yourself out there a couple of times by asking him to do something. Since the last time you said anything you suggested he rest, I would say you should either email or message him and say, "Hey, I'd still like to hang out if you can find time while you're here! Just let me know when is good for you!" And then leave it at that. You've then put the ball in his court, and if he doesn't make time for you, you've done all you could to let him know you are interested.
I don't know that much about him, but if he has a lot of friends and family he hasn't seen in a while and is only there for a week, and he's only known you online and met you that one time, it's possible the time you had on Sunday is all the time he'll have for you. Usually people we've known longer tend to be a priority. So pay attention to the clues he gives you (is he brushing you off, or truly just very busy with other people?), and take them at face value.
Good luck!
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Hi Ms,
I am confused about somethings..I dunno.. but on our first date,, we made love.. it was great.. it was the first time I have ever done it b4 and im 26 and so is he. He didnt buy into the whole fact that I had not had S** b4.. neways.. he had mentioned that after having S** that how can u want to do it with me u dont even know me.. and that kinda bothered me. I told him well I like u.. and I wanted to.. and Im glad that it is with you. He didnt respond to that.. neways he is here not just to see family but for work too. He is also doing work while he is here. and I dont want to sound pushy you know and drive him away.. what should I do? is there any way that I can call u and talk to u about it?
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