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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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I'm 16/f, used to be bestfriends with a 16/m. We were extremely close, the best of friends, we no longer are. We've grown apart due to random fights, and idk why. But anyway, I cry all the time over him. It's like mourning a loss, but really it's just a friendship. Basically, I've tried since February (when we were no longer best friends) to maintain a good friendship with him, and it's real hard.
I've come to the conclusion that continuing being his friend is the wrong choice. He's the only person that makes me cry, I always feel like I'm never good enough for him, I'm tired of being hurt. Would you say cutting all contact with him, not seeing him, etc, would help me forget about him & allow me to no longer be his friend?
In my opinion, you`re better off without him.
Alright, make two lists.
One of all the good things about him, one of all the bad. Whichever one is bigger, well, there`s your answer.
If there`s more bad things, don`t just suddenly start entirely ignoring him. He`ll probably freak out if ya`ll are still friends. Just gradually stop calling him, IMing him, etc. If he calls, explain the situation to your family & tell them not to pick up. Also, block his number from your cell phone if you need to. Whatever you do, try not to talk bad about him, somehow -- they always find out. Don`t start a fight either to end the friendship, just gradually break away. It`s hard, I know, but it`ll get easier after a while. =]
Good luck!
(Rating: 5) thank you so much, that helped incrediblyyy a lot. haha. :)