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i frequently put my self down, and its really hard on me at times. i have very low confidence in myself, and was wondering what are the many ways to build confidence?
and if you know anything about depression medicine that'd be great to hear!
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One thing that really helps with self-esteem is to find something that you are good at. Everyone has something that they can do well- whether it's a sport, art or writing, a subject in school, a hobby- which could entail almost anything including games like chess or scrabble...there are thousands of things to explore. Join a group at school, try some new things, some you may be good at, some not, but have fun and learn along the way. And eventually, you will find something that you really shine at which will make you feel a whole lot better about yourself.
I realize that it may be hard to 'jump' into new things if your self-esteem is low, but that's all the more reason why you should try it. The key is to not take yourself so seriously. Just go in with the idea that you are going to explore something new and maybe meet some new people- don't have too high expectations. Then take it from there. If it's not your 'thing', then there are dozens of other things to try. If you take this approach then things will be just fine.
Don't worry about what might go wrong or what people are going to think. If everyone worried about that, then nothing would ever get accomplished in this world!
PS- If you're not able to muster up the courage the join a group, sports team or the other suggestions above, you can also try volunteering somewhere. There are dozens of places always looking for volunteers- everything from visiting people in nursing homes to helping sort cans at the food bank, tutoring, helping people to read or to learn english, churches need help...this list is endless. Sometimes seeing people who are in much worse conditions than yourself gives you a bit of a reality check and helps you to realize that you're not so bad off. Also, being able to positively impact the life of someone else gives you a good feeling of accomplishment. So this is something to look into too.
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Thanks i bunch!
i'm currently playing football this year, and am in a few clubs-as well i volunteer with the lafd
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