I'm Em.
I'm a 20 year old English/History student living in Sydney.
I dig art, music and books.
I'll take questions on relationships, friendships, high school, uni, or whatever else.
I try to give the best advice I can, usually drawing on my own personal experience. But I'm not perfect, and sometimes when I look back on some of my advice it's far from it (especially when I was 15 and writing LiKe THiS). It's just advice, though. It's not an answer or a solution, it's simply a potentially helpful perspective. And that's all I can offer you.
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My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that. (link)
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A whore, in what we think is someone who sleeps around alot. This girl, even though it is shunned in our society, had sex at a young age. She obviously liked this guy alot and it was her choice wether she did it or not. I know people who have dated more than that many guys or slept with more than just one guy, but i dont hate them or have lost respect for them.
This girl is your friend. Your jugding who she is because of her own choices to be sexual or not. It hasnt changed her as a person. If she had never told her you wouldnt have had a problem with her.
I know it is hard to accept she could do something so young but cmon shes your friend and she is still a good person. I think it is wrong to stop talking to her because of that. Your basing your entire friendship on what she did with her boyfriend when that is none of your buisness. D is a whore in the way she has slept around but just becuase she is one doesnt make her a bad person.
I suggest you think about what kind of friend you are being here. How can you just lose respect for someone who has opened up to u and told you something that was THEIR buisness not yours.
I have a friend who makes some bad choices of sleeping around with alot of guys but she is still a fantastic girl. Its her choice what she does in her privacy and in her relationships and none of my buisness. I worry for her and if she asks me for advice on a guy i will tell her its not safe to be doing this but i cant stop her and im not going to hate her for what shes done because the fast is she still is the friend i have always adored and nothings going to change that.
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I get what your saying, but people always ask me, "your her friend" and sometimes its hard to say yes. And yes I have lost respect for her. I wish she hadn't told and yes I wouldnt have a problem with her. This is good advice tho, so thank you.
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